What You’ve Got Is What You Want – Even If It Hurts

Adam Jukes



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Intended for those who are troubled by their lives and want to make changes but don’t know where to begin, this is a book about relationships.  It is not intended as a self-help book, but as one which will encourage the reader to really think about themselves and the way they act – how their behaviour is driven by thoughts, feelings, and impulses of which they may not have any conscious awareness.

Jukes examines his ‘Mad Hypothesis’ – so called because it seems, at first glance, to be ‘mad.’  He has used it successfully in therapeutic work to refer to everything that is wrong in a patient’s relationship and even their life: “You are responsible for everything that is wrong with your relationship including any behaviour of your partner which you use to justify, excuse, or in any other way account for yo own behaviour towards him/her, or the world in general.”

The author draws on his vast clinical experience to explore this fascinating idea and looks at other related issues such as anxiety, sulking, masochism, and attachment.  He also includes many illuminating case-studies which perfectly illustrate his theories and make the text accessible to both clinicians and non-professionals.

Adam Jukes is recognised as one of the world’s leading clinical researchers on men’s abuse of women.  He has published widely in academic journals and teaches on many forensic psychotherapy training programmes.  He is a regular contributor to conferences on men’s violence and abusiveness to women and children.  Previous titles include Why Men Hate Women and Is There A Cure For Masculinity?

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